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"Carrots - Eggs - or Coffee Beans?"
A daughter complained to her father about her life and how things were 
so hard for her.  She did not know how she was going to make it and 
wanted to give up.  She was tired of fighting and struggling.  It seemed 
as one problem was solved a new one arose.  
 Her father, a chef, took her to the kitchen. He filled three pots with 
water and placed each on a high fire.  Soon the pots came to a boil.  In 
one he placed carrots, in the second he placed eggs, and the last he 
placed ground coffee beans.  He let them sit and boil, without saying a 
word.  The daughter sucked her teeth and impatiently waited, wondering 
what he was doing.  In about twenty minutes he turned off the burners.  
He fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl.  He pulled the eggs 
out and placed them a bowl.  Then he ladled the coffee out and placed it 
in a bowl. 
 Turning to her he asked. "Darling, what do you see?"  "Carrots, eggs, 
and coffee," she replied.  He brought her closer and asked her to feel 
the carrots.  She did and noted that they were soft.  He then asked her 
to take an egg and break it.  After pulling off the shell, she observed 
the hard-boiled egg.  Finally, he asked her to sip the coffee.  She 
smiled as she tasted it and smelled its rich aroma.  She humbly asked. 
"What does it mean Father?"
 He explained that each of them had faced the same adversity, boiling 
water, but each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard, 
and unrelenting.  But after being subjected to the boiling water, it 
softened and became weak.  The egg had been fragile.  Its thin outer 
shell had protected its liquid interior. But after sitting through the 
boiling water, its inside became hardened.  The ground coffee beans were 
unique, however.  After they were in the boiling water, they had changed 
the water. "Which are you?" he asked his daughter. "When adversity 
knocks on your door, how do you respond?  Are you a carrot, an egg, or a 
coffee bean? " 
 How about you?  Are you the carrot that seems hard, but with pain and 
adversity do you wilt and become soft and lose your strength?  Are you 
the egg, which starts off with a malleable heart?  Were you a fluid 
spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a divorce, or a layoff have you 
become hardened and stiff?  Your shell looks the same, but are you 
bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and heart?  Or are you like the 
coffee bean?  The bean changes the hot water, the thing that is bringing 
the pain.  When the water gets the hottest, it just tastes better.  If 
you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better 
and make things better around you.  How do you handle adversity?  Are 
you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean? " 

~Author Unknown~